The Sex of the Soul and the Man-Woman Inequality.

The soul is bisexual and brahmacharya is about bisexuality and should be taken up by those who are above the limitations of being a male/female.

“When you think about a subject, you think you know ‘100 %' about it. When you talk about it in front of your ‘dog’, you actually speak out ‘150 %’ on it. When you discuss it in the right forum, you end up realizing ‘200-1000 %’ about it. The power of an open debate! ” [The Bengalis love to do it all the time implying that all souls interested in debating are born in a Bengali family, on this side of the world; the rest I do not know and although I like it too, I am not a Bengali and I am probably a misfit! (Pun intended on my Bengali friends)]

I discovered the role of sex in the moulding of a soul for a lifetime, in 3 different discussions:

1. [2000-2005] - Atheetha Ashram with MA & a 60 year old lady lecturer from Calcutta Univ., who retreats to this ashram every year once: She had so much of this man-woman inequality in her discussion that I thought she was a victim of men’s domination in her life. The men in her surroundings seemed to have had an adverse effect on her. She had spent 60 years in this state of mind, believing this to be true and being confined and reserved by this idea. MA tried explaining holistically, but I butted in – “It is not about being a man or a woman. The soul does not have any sex, but once it wears the male/female body, it takes up the attributes of that body and believes to be limited by those attributes. Those souls, who realize this fact, rise above that reality and irrespective of whether they are men/women, they exercise their strengths in totality, rising above the man-woman stereotypes and the boundaries set by the society. There is no man-woman inequality to such souls & none is inferior to the other. It is about how to use that body for that lifetime and all the excess baggage that comes with it!” (It dawned on me that I believed in this ideology which I probably had picked up from GDs or books, but I like to believe it this way, whether it is right or wrong, until it can be proven otherwise). The lady was still confused and was probably too old to believe in this ideology and wipe out ‘her opinion’ of 60-years which was probably moulded into her memory for this lifetime. And that is why one has to keep on moving on the journey, keeping the learning and forgetting the experiences.

2. [2000-2003]-With MP in a chat: I was telling her- “I have all the experiences as a man for 27 years and behave according to my 27 years of learning as a man, but I do not know what it means to be woman even for a single day. Similarly, she had all the experiences of being a woman of 24 years and that she behaved as per her experiences of this lifetime, without knowing how a man thinks or behaves. This is where the soul is confined and made to believe that it is male or female and that it has to act accordingly. Now for a day, if we were to exchange bodies, I would still act like a man in a woman’s body and she would act like a woman although in a man’s body. All the knowledge of this lifetime has to be unlearned to behave like a male or female should.” And that is why a ‘Reset’ is required after every lifetime. [I understand more of what I 'just' said then, now]

3. 2008- With RK, PVK & PJ: Don’t recall how the topic came up, but there was a debate on our beliefs in a man-woman relationship, wherein RK was being the provocative PITA that he can be and was trying to lead the discussion in a particular direction… Again, I tried summarizing my understanding on the topic-“According to Osho, the 4 primary aspects of a man and woman are present in every person. They are: <1> Physical aspect, <2> Emotional Aspect, <3> Mental Aspect & <4> Spiritual Aspect. There are more aspects/bodies to an individual, but these primarily define the personality. A man is strong in aspects 1 & 3, by default [Generally, a man can be physically (very obvious) & logically (more from the egoistic perspective) dominating]. Similarly, by nature, a woman is strong in aspects 2 & 4 [Generally, a woman can be emotionally (very obvious) and spiritually (slightly complex; needs further explanation) dominating. Women tend to believe or have unquestioned faith in God (matters of heart), whereas for a man, it needs to be proven first (logically/mentally)]. On their own, a man or a woman are incomplete in at least 2 of these aspects. Their union through marriage or a relationship completes/supplements the lack of the respective aspects within him/her. As a couple, the man learns to exercise his emotions or belief/faith through his woman and similarly, a woman learns to exercise her (weakness/lack of) masculinity & ego through her man. Here, the souls moulded by the type of body for a lifetime realize the completion of nature through the ‘other’ type. When a soul, irrespective, of what body it wears after experiencing both the male and female natures, does not require the other type to fulfill its nature, it is ready for Brahmacharya or Celibacy. On the contrary, as long as the soul in a particular body type needs another type to fulfill itself, it should not take up Celibacy! Further, at a later stage in life, after experiencing the other aspects through one’s partner, the individual actually can become stronger in his/her inherent/initial weaker aspects – Reversal of Roles” RK seemed to be convinced and I believe in this, as long as it can be proved wrong (my aspect # 3).

To summarize, the souls who have experienced both natures – male/masculine and female/ feminine, tend to rise above the limitations of being a man or a woman and still achieve what the total personality (all 4 aspects included) believes in or are driven towards! These are complete, mature & wise ‘human’ souls!

And we want to address the eternal “man-woman” inequality…the hypocrisy of our civilization! Shouldn’t we know better?